Sex & Relationship Therapy - Integrative and Relational
Like so many things in my life, my style and approach to therapy has evolved since I began private practice. I do not ascribe to one particular style or approach, but I would generally describe myself as a relational and integrative therapist. This means I utilize a variety of different approaches with a foundation of believing that what is happening in the therapuetic space is highly important. This requires awareness of the body and the relational field between myself and my clients. I tend to help people move into a deeper type of processing than what is experienced in traditional “talk therapy.” Because of this, I work best with people who are emotionally ready to understand themselves and to start making changes in their life and relationships. I do not have a session limit, but when you work with me we are both agreeing that our work will be focused and will have an intentional ending or “pause.” I frequently have folks schedule check-ins or follow-up sessions after we have ended our initial phase of working together.
I identify as poly/kinky/queer and welcome folks with similar identities and folks who are wanting to explore these things!
My areas of clinical focus include:
• Anxiety or emotional discomfort with sex
• Concerns related to desire and arousal
• Erectile issues/ premature ejaculation, pain during sex, or difficulty with orgasm
• Dealing with sexual side effects of medication, illness, or emotional stress
• Identity and orientation issues
• Concerns related to sex and life transitions (marriage, pregnancy, children, menopause, illness)
• Concern about “compulsive” or “addictive” behaviors including issues related to pornography use
• Recovery from experiences of non-consensual sex and sexual assault
• Processing experiences of childhood or past sexual abuse
• Issues related to the intersectionality of sexuality, gender, race, ethnicity, and ability
My style of therapy is not for everyone. If any of the following are part of what you are looking for in therapy, I am not a good fit for you:
• Someone to check-in with about general life experiences
• Support for suicidal thoughts or recent suicide attempts
• Support related to substance use/abuse that inhibit daily functioning
• Support for untreated and/or severe psychological diagnoses (i.e. mood disorders, PTSD, schizophrenia)
• Support for active engagement in non-consensual behavior
A few important things to know about sex and relationship therapy include:
While some things we discuss may be uncomfortable, you will never be forced to disclose something unwillingly. Boundaries and direct communication are highly prioritized and in each therapy session, the client is ultimately the guide of how the session goes.
I will do my best to check in with you and ask questions in order to clarify language. Know that it is okay if you are uncertain how to describe certain experiences and emotions - we will work together and go slowly if needed so that you feel understood.
Sex therapy is meant to be a safe, private setting where sensitive and personal topics can be discussed. Although we may be discussing sexually explicit experiences and feelings, sex therapy does not involve any type of sexual exchange, nudity, or client/therapist touching.
If you are interested in therapy with me, but are feeling uncertain if it is the right choice for you or if you have any questions or concerns before making an appointment to meet with me, do not hesitate to email.
Individuals and couples of all sexualities, gender identities and expressions, and relationship styles are welcome!